10 Big and Small Lessons Learned Last Year for a More Abundant Life
March 4, 2019
Do you write down the lessons you learn each year? I desire to be a life long learner. As I was reflecting on last year I made a list of 10 big and small lessons learned last year for a more abundant life. I thought I’d share it with you.
1) QUIT DRINKING
I’m still sober! I can face extremely hard challenges and win. On September 14th, 2017 I quit drinking. I knew it was getting the best of me. I saw myself heading down a path I knew was not healthy. You can read more about my journey here. It has gotten easier as time goes by but I don’t want to take it for granted.
2) BE WILLING TO CHANGE
My husband is changing into a more kind, loving, grateful, supportive husband. I believe the reason my husband is changing is that I have changed. I am a kind, loving, grateful and supportive wife who didn’t always used to be that way. It’s the overflow of what God has done in me. Daily he is molding and shaping me into the Godly woman he wants me to be and naturally, that transforms my mind, my life and the way I treat others. Will every husband change? I can’t say for sure, but even if they don’t you will be so blessed by the person you’ve become it won’t matter.
3) BE A CHEERLEADER
I love my husband more and more each day. It’s a choice I’ve made. I look for things to love about my husband. “Your eyes look so blue in that sweater” “Thanks for running the dishwasher” “That new recipe you picked out was tasty” “You handled that conversation really well, good job babe” It’s become a regular habit and just flows out of my mouth with ease. Who needs to know you love them more and more each day?
4) BE IN GOD’S WORD
I need to be in God’s word daily! When I am in God’s word life just works better. Last year I didn’t have a plan. I know there are plenty of Bible reading plans out there but I start well and don’t finish. This year I am giving myself more grace. If I look at the verse of the day on the YouVersion Bible app – I’m in God’s word. If I read a devotional and it references scripture – I’m in God’s word. It helps to set the tone for my day. A Godly woman I respect a great deal shared how she goes through God’s word. She picks a book of the Bible and starts reading. As she reads she answers two questions. First, What is God like? Second, What does God what me to do? So far I’m on my third book in the Bible using this plan and I’m loving it.
5) SET A TIMER
I, like my husband, love it when the house is clean. I only wish someone else cleaned it for me. There is something about coming home to a messy house that is stressful. I’ve added a daily habit to my weekly bullet journal spread called – 15 minute clean. I set a timer for 15 minutes each day and I do what I can till the timer goes off. At the end of the week, our house looks amazing and it only took 15 minutes a day five days in a row. Now, that, I can do and the results bring more peace.
6) LOSS IS HARD
I have learned a lot about loss and death this year. What to do and what not to do. Things that are helpful and things that hurt. People I love have lost their spouses. Some had cancer and knew it was coming and some were lost suddenly. Others were people I served alongside at church. Either way, it affects you. If you missed my post Lost is Hard – 4 things to show you can click here.
7) COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY
I still compare myself with others. The only way I know to combat this is to be thankful. I write something I’m grateful for every day. It helps me reflect on the good that is happening in my life. Lara Casey has a page in the Cultivate What Matters 2019 power sheets that say the following: Comparison isn’t just the thief of joy, its the thief of everything. Keep your eyes on your purposeful path. Celebrate others. Celebrate progress, not perfections. Cultivate gratitude over comparison. Gratitude turns what we have into more than enough. AMEN sister!
8) ACKNOWLEDGE, KNOW & LOVE
People want to be acknowledged, known and loved. When you’re walking down the hallway and pass a colleague say “Hello”, “Good Morning” or some pleasantry. If a friend is serving you at church use their name and thank them for serving. To love is to acknowledge people. Be curious – this is on my list of goals this year. Ask people to share their story. Everyone has one. Then when you see them again remember a name, a story, a situation and ask about it. People want to be known. Do you know the definition of love? You can find it in the Bible in 1st Corinthians 13:4-8. Use this definition of love and you can’t go wrong. People want to be loved.
9) KEEP COMMITMENTS TO YOURSELF
The first person I give up on is myself (not all the time but frequently). I will work hard to keep the commitments I have with others. If I told a friend I will be there I will and when someone needs my help, I’m ready and willing. If a gal in my small group needs to meet outside of group time, I’m there. However if I make a commitment to get up early for my morning routine and don’t feel like it, I fold like a cheap lawn chair. I want to make myself a priority this year.
10) FEELINGS SHOULDN’T RULE
I don’t set and keep boundaries for myself (again, not all the time but frequently). The truth is, I wouldn’t be sober if this didn’t happen sometimes. I believe it goes back to feelings. Do you let your feelings control your actions when it comes to limiting yourself? I do. For example, one Reese peanut butter cup is fine, but 8 not so much. Dairy has a negative effect on my body but I continue to eat cheese knowing I’m not going to feel good. I stay up late one night knowing I’m not going to feel like going to the gym in the morning. I’ve got to figure out how to deal with these feelings!
What big or small lessons have you learned last year that will help you live a more abundant life? Share it with me in the comments below.